Is it me?
That’s one scary question.
Are you constantly pushing uphill at work? Feel like you’re on a treadmill – exhausted but getting nowhere? Most of us find ourselves in this kind of situation at some point. Working hard, often battling and just not getting ahead.
There is one scary question that brings clarity in these situations and often gets big results.
Is it me?
Often, the answer is YES!
That’s a daunting thing to deal with. It can mean big decisions and big changes.
It’s also incredibly liberating. Let me explain.
A friend was struggling to get ahead at work. She felt on the outer, being left off the ‘good projects’, feeling frustrated and embarrassed when she was the last one to know important information, and no matter how hard she worked it was never acknowledged.
Finally, she asked, ‘is it me?’ And realised the answer was YES!
She was a conscientious, detail focused person in a small team of big-picture people.
This point of difference could have been a strength, but her short sighted manager saw her asking for detail or flagging issues in projects as being ‘negative’. She was also an amazing single Mum who didn’t stick around all night at work drinks. Her manager loved alcohol and late nights, and the colleagues who lasted longest at the pub got inside information and exciting new projects. It was her. She was perfect for the role, but wrong for the team.
Once my friend realised the problem WAS her, it took all of the uncertainty and frustration out of the situation. She could change who she was. Or she could change her job.
Another friend was struggling in his new role in a large corporation. He was frustrated at feeling micromanaged, and passed over for advancements. He was losing focus and feeling stressed. Finally he asked, ‘is it me?’ and the answer was yes.
His role was a career change and very different to his previous work. While he excelled in some areas, he struggled in others and was making too many mistakes. This reflection allowed a change of focus, and he sought additional training and mentoring. Soon his work improved and he was given an opportunity to advance.
If you’re feeling frustrated or unproductive it might be time to ask, ‘is it me?’