If you had to do a performance review on your own inner voice, how would your ‘people skills’ rate? In other words, how are you treating yourself? Are you respectful in your self talk?
It has been said that we are all our own harshest critic. I’m asking you to reject that notion. We can and must be our own best advocate and supporter. You must show yourself respect in order to have others respect you.
Self talk and productivity
What does the way you talk to yourself have to do with productivity? Everything. Your inner voice can enable you to be productive, happy and successful, or it can hold you back and add stress and guilt that you don’t need or deserve. Your self talk can significantly impact on your mental and physical health.
Scientific studies of the placebo effect and related phenomena have identified ‘expectancy theory’ – what the brain believes about the immediate future has a significant impact on that future. Our experiences of discomfort, fear, pain and even reactions to poison ivy have been proven to be significantly impacted by our positive or negative thoughts and beliefs. Your thoughts can and do shape your future.
Change negative self talk
If your inner voice is generating negative self talk and creating a negative future, what can you do about it?
- Identify unrealistic, unhelpful and negative self talk. Sometimes our thinking is so ingrained we don’t recognise that our self talk is disrespectful and unhelpful. If a thought brings on feelings of stress, fatigue, overwhelm or similar feelings, that’s a red flag that it’s unhelpful.
“I am never going to make this deadline, I’m going to fail”
- Challenge your negative self talk. What evidence supports or disproves your thought? What would you say to a friend or colleague who was having that thought?
“I’ve met plenty of tough deadlines.”
- Form a positive, helpful thought. After challenging your negative or unhelpful thought, find something realistic, positive or empowering that you can believe or act on.
“It’s going to be tight, and I can meet this deadline. I’ll complete the section I’m working on and then get Jim to review it; his feedback is always helpful.”
Support yourself and shape your future with respectful self talk
You don’t need to be your own harshest critic; you need to be your own biggest supporter. I’m not talking about being unrealistic and overly optimistic; I’m talking about making sure your self talk is positive, realistic and helpful.
Take a few moments today to review your inner voice. Are you showing yourself the respect that you deserve and building a positive future? If not, start practicing the three steps above to change any negative self talk. You’ll be surprised at the difference it makes to all aspects of your life.
Supporting respectful self talk
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